Is The Pressure To Appear Strong And Stoic Causing You To Internalize Stress?
Are you a man who struggles with feelings of powerlessness or low self-esteem? Has a past trauma impacted your capacity for resilience? Do you feel as though you cannot communicate or assert your wants and needs?
Perhaps you struggle with symptoms of anxiety or depression, including isolation and withdrawal, shame, or irritability. It may be that you don’t have a strong network of support systems in your life or that your friendships are relatively surface-level, preventing you from fostering deep and meaningful connections with other men.
It could be that you’re a male victim of domestic violence or abuse. Maybe your wife or partner has become emotionally, verbally, or physically abusive, and you’re in search of ways to effectively assert and protect yourself without escalating conflict.
Alternatively, you may experience emotional outbursts or uncontrollable anger yourself. It could be that whenever difficult emotions arise—such as sadness or loneliness—they automatically translate into extreme irritation or rage.
Despite your strengths or capabilities in other areas of life, you may simply struggle to feel seen or understood by others. And if you find yourself speculating on how to move through life without feeling so frustrated, tense, or out of control, perhaps it’s time to consider counseling for men’s issues.
Men Aren’t Usually Given Effective Resources Or Avenues For Improving Mental Health
Many American men are adversely impacted by feelings of anger, a lack of control, and symptoms of anxiety and depression. They can often feel as though no one understands or cares, which causes them to bottle up emotions or numb themselves to psychic pain. The suppression of these feelings can create long-term problems on both individual and collective levels, demonstrating that men undoubtedly encounter obstacles when it comes to receiving effective mental health support in this country.
Because men are conditioned from a young age to remain strong and stoic when life becomes challenging, the wide range of difficult emotions that they experience as humans can often manifest as anger and outrage because they haven’t had proper guidance on what to do with uncomfortable feelings. Society often views emotional sensitivities and self-expression as either overly effeminate or weak, preventing men from getting the help they need.
This cultural messaging is not only erroneous—it’s damaging. And it often creates emotional distress, substance abuse, and, in some cases, violence. Moreover, after living this way for so long, many men don’t even know where to begin when it comes to being aware of their feelings or expressing their needs.
Though you may not know what kinds of mental health resources are available to men, counseling is a great place to start the important work of processing your experiences and understanding your emotional realities.
Counseling Provides Men With A Chance To Build On Strengths And Explore Emotions
Due to our culture’s damaging programming and messaging when it comes to men’s mental health, you may feel hesitant or even fearful to open up about your experiences. However, therapy is designed to meet your needs and provide you with a nonjudgmental, supportive space where you can feel free to become vulnerable.
At Through Therapy Collective, we have a diverse and culturally competent team of clinicians, including a male therapist who is ready to understand, normalize, and validate your experiences. Working with your therapist, you will be able to create goals for counseling and collaborate on ways you can become more emotionally aware and resilient.
Throughout the course of counseling, you will be empowered to explore such topics as the social conditioning of men, past traumas, and the development of your belief systems so that your therapist can get a sense of how you think and react to certain situations. From there, we will begin the valuable work of tuning in to your body, so that you can accurately identify thoughts, feelings, and emotions, especially during times of distress.
By working with a therapist who understands men’s issues, it is our hope that you will develop a sense of your own internal strengths, become more assertive in your needs, gain self-esteem, and find healthy ways to work through interpersonal/relationship issues. Using a tailored combination of behavioral techniques, motivational approaches, mindfulness, and solution-focused therapy, you will be able to access and build on inherent skill sets that can help you to manage stress and solve problems.
You don’t have to suffer in silence—a sense of renewed self-awareness and confidence is just around the corner. At Through Therapy Collective, you will find a place that is safe for men to open up and explore your emotions so that you may gain the self-understanding to once again feel in control.
Perhaps You’re Considering Counseling For Men, But You Have Some Concerns
I am afraid that therapy will make me overly emotional.
The function of therapy is not to make you more emotional; it’s to give yourself a chance to become more emotionally aware. If you’re struggling with issues of aggression, anger, irritability, or loneliness, an opportunity to explore the experiences and stressors at the core of those feelings can help you. By unpacking emotions that have been pent up, you can begin to feel a sense of relief as you become more aware and less reactive, ultimately creating greater peace in your life.
I am worried that I will be shamed or judged for going to men’s counseling.
You wouldn’t be seeking help unless there were obstacles in your life that are preventing you from growing and making progress. Whether you’re experiencing individual mental health issues or challenges in your relationships, seeking help is nothing to be ashamed of. In fact, those close to you will likely benefit from you becoming more emotionally aware. And if there are people in your life who will make you feel judged or ashamed for seeking therapy, you may want to take a moment to consider if your well-being is really their priority.
My husband/partner/friend/son could benefit from counseling for men, but he is opposed to going to therapy.
If there is a man in your life who is resistant to the idea of therapy, it might help them to consider that the vast majority of our clients feel an immediate sense of relief when they can enter the safe space of therapy to explore their emotions and experiences. If you can convince the man in your life to at least schedule one session at Through Therapy Collective, we are confident that he will want to continue counseling.