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Cold Feet About Getting Married: 3 Ways To Self-Soothe Before “I do”

Updated: Sep 13, 2023

Cold Feet About Getting Married: 3 Ways To Self-Soothe Before “I do”
Cold Feet About Getting Married: 3 Ways To Self-Soothe Before “I do”

Cold Feet About Getting Married: 3 Ways To Self-Soothe Before “I do”

This has been one of your dreams since you were a child. Getting married has always been a goal of yours. You played dress up with friends each taking turns on playing the role of the bride or the groom. You were through all of the stages of finding your person. You’ve dated. Now you’re engaged. The next step is to get married.

You’ve always been excited about the idea of getting married. It’s the natural next step in the process of life. Plus, you’ve had an idea of what your wedding would look like for years. You may even have a board or two on Pinterest with themes, locations, color schemes, ring preferences, and floral arrangements.

You’re starting to feel a little bit more unsure and uncertain about this big life change that is about to happen with each passing day inching closer to the day of your wedding.

Having cold feet about getting married? Here are three ways to self-soothe before you say “I do”.

1. Practice Self-Care

Self-care before a wedding doesn’t mean cutting calories, exercising for hours on end, or trying to clear up your skin before the big day. Self-care is prioritizing your own wants and needs for your overall mental health and wellness. Planning a wedding already means that some of your wants and needs are getting pushed to the side. Try not to do this! Practicing self-care is extremely important. You can’t expect to fill someone else’s cup if yours is half empty. You have to make sure you’re giving yourself enough time, rest, and recovery to tend to your own needs. Here are a few ways you can practice self-care:

  • Take a bath

  • Read a book

  • Listen to music

  • Plan time with friends

  • Go for a walk outside

  • Attend a yoga class

2. Practice Meditation

Meditation is a great tool to ground yourself and bring you back to the present moment. A lot of wedding anxiety stems from worrying about the future. Don’t let your mind doesn’t wander. Not quite sure if meditation is right for you? Give it a try before you judge it! Meditation takes time and practice. It isn’t something you’ll be good at overnight. Take the time and try to incorporate it into your daily routine little by little. If you’re unsure where to start, try out an app or a guided video to help you get started.

3. Fuel Your Body Properly

Wedding planning may mean restricting calories or spending time at the gym. Wanting to look and feel your best on your wedding day is completely normal. It’s important that you’re not restricting or overworking yourself though. Everything is in moderation. You have to strive for a healthy balance in life. Adding pressure to being a certain weight or having a certain look will only add more anxiety to your life. You already have enough to worry about. Make sure you’re fueling yourself properly to make it through your days. Make sure that you’re eating healthy and well-balanced meals, drinking enough water, and aiming for at least eight hours of sleep each night.

Next Steps

Having cold feet is completely normal. You’re not alone if you’re experiencing cold feet. Experiencing cold feet doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t get married. It just means that you’re adjusting to what comes next. It’s common to have a little uncertainty or doubt.

Anxious even after trying some self-soothing techniques? It may be time to seek additional support from a licensed and trained mental health professional may be exactly what you need. We’ll help you warm up those feet to find happily ever after again. Reach out to us today to set up a consultation.


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